In the early days of parenthood when the focus is often on the mother and the baby, many dads and partners report feeling left out or like a third wheel. This is particularly the case if your partner is breastfeeding. Many men find it difficult to be open and honest about how they're feeling or adjusting and say they often feel "invisible" or ignored by health professionals.  

While you might find that some of your friendships will change after having a baby, talking about your experiences with friends and workmates who've been through it, can be helpful. As you'll discover, there are positive and challenging aspects about becoming a dad - and you're not alone in finding it both rewarding and tough at times.

While having a baby means you'll have less free time, (at least for a little while), it can be helpful to prioritise some hobbies or activities you've always enjoyed. You might not be able to go to the gym or see your mates as frequently in the early stages of parenthood but making time for yourself outside work and parenting is important.

Sometimes it will be important to ask yourself - does this really matter? Putting unnecessary pressure on yourself can increase stress levels during an already vulnerable time. Keeping things in perspective is key, even if it's often easier said than done.

Having a baby places women at risk of developing depression and anxiety – more-so than at any other stage in their lives. That's why it's so important for both you and your partner to learn what to look out for. It's important to seek help as early as possible, so be proactive about learning more about these conditions and taking the steps to getting help. 

If you’re concerned your partner may be suffering or you've noticed changes in her behaviour, talk to her about how she's feeling, and ask her what would help her cope. This might include practical things like helping her prioritise sleep, going to a GP appointment with her, or taking on more caregiving responsibilities if you have older children. Sometimes, simply listening to how she's finding motherhood and what she's struggling with most, can make a big difference.

Becoming a father can bring meaning, purpose and joy. But it's also a time of considerable change and adjustment. Many dads find that not being able to exercise as often, not eating as well and dealing with sleep-deprivation can take a toll on their physical and mental wellbeing.

It's important to check-in with yourself regularly to monitor how you're travelling.

Being aware of the signs and symptoms of mental health conditions that commonly occur during pregnancy and after birth, will mean you can seek help early if you need it. The faster you seek help, the faster you and/or your partner can recover. 

Many couples are surprised by just how much their relationship changes after welcoming a baby. In the early weeks and months your partner’s focus and attention will be directed towards meeting the needs of your new baby. She may also feel exhausted and "touched out" as she adjusts to motherhood.

It's important to try to spend time as a couple where you can, to nurture your relationship and to reinforce that you're a team. When your baby is sleeping, make time to connect with your partner, reflect on how things are going for both of you and how you can best support one another.