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At COPE, we believe every parent deserves access to compassionate support and reliable information. Our mission is to raise awareness, reduce stigma, and empower families facing perinatal mental health challenges.

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Understand when to seek help, how to take the first step of talking to someone, types of support available, plus how to find specialised perinatal mental health support near you.

Adjusting to your body's changes after pregnancy and birth

Many women struggle with the changes to their body after giving birth. It’s normal and understandable, particularly as you recover and heal. New mothers often describe feeling shocked, embarrassed and anxious as they adjust to weight gain, stretch marks and loose skin post-pregnancy.

Unfortunately, these feelings can be compounded by societal pressure to “bounce back” and social media images of celebrities and influencers appearing to lose weight effortlessly. (Don’t forget that in reality, they often have the help of chefs, personal trainers and Instagram filters!)

I couldn’t look at myself in the mirror after having my baby. I hated my body.

Relapse of eating disorders in early parenthood

Changes in body image can be challenging for people with a history of eating disorders.

While pregnancy may lead to improvements in eating disorder behaviours, in the months following birth, parents are more likely to report being unhappy with their body shape and weight. This can happen to people of all body shapes and sizes.

Higher levels of distress are also reported by some people in the months following birth. This can be regarding the changes to their body from pre-pregnancy, missing their pregnancy identity, the feeling of lost ownership, agency or control of your body, and/or general challenges with early parenthood. These factors can all result in increased risk of relapse at this time.

I swear to god, I had like a countdown to when she was born, and I didn’t have to eat anymore.

Breastfeeding left me gaunt and thin which only stirred old habits. I was so busy with the baby that I often just forgot to eat. When people said, “You don’t look like you’ve had a baby,” it reinforced my old eating behaviours. I was feeding my baby – and starving myself at the same time.

Eating disorders and mental health

Eating disorders have been associated with increased risk of anxiety and depression both during pregnancy and in the year following birth.

This is why it is important that your health team know your eating disorder experience and how your mental health is tracking during your pregnancy and early parenting journey.

I chose not to breastfeed because I wanted to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight. I still feel guilty about it.

Feeding

Research has indicated that parents with current or a history of eating disorders may need additional support with feeding the baby and eating.

A Child and Family Nurse or Lactation Consultant may be able to assist with specific feeding challenges, including fuelling your own body or managing specific difficulties with body positioning. 

A Credentialed Eating Disorder Clinician can provide additional support when these challenges bring up body image concerns or worries about food.

How are eating disorders managed in early parenthood?

Non-medical treatments

Talking therapies can be very helpful for some people in managing eating disorders and related mental health concerns, such as anxiety and depression.

A mental health professional can work with you to find the therapeutic approach that works for you. This might include Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, InterpersonalTherapy or other approaches.

Medical treatments

Medicines such as a class of antidepressants known as SSRIs which are safe to use during breastfeeding, may be helpful to manage depression or anxiety that you may be experiencing alongside the eating disorder. This can make it easier to focus on therapy.

Some medications are approved in Australia for the treatment of Binge Eating Disorder but should only be prescribed in certain circumstances.

As with all medications, it is important to speak with your health professional, and together weigh up the risks of the medication with the risks of untreated or not adequately treated eating disorders - particularly if you are breastfeeding.

Self care

Eating nutritious foods and staying hydrated will help give your brain and body what they need to get you and your baby through pregnancy and early parenthood.

When possible, choose fruit, vegetables, wholegrains and energy sources such as lean meat, chicken, fish, eggs, nuts, seeds and plant oils. 

Also, be flexible with your food and kind to yourself about the choices that you make – you are doing hard things and ‘good enough’ nutrition is good enough.

Where can I find help?

It is helpful to let your health professional know about your history with eating disorders, so they can better understand your needs and work with you to provide appropriate support and reassurance.

Many women with eating disorders suffer in silence due to the stigma that still exists around these conditions. It’s important to know that if you’re struggling with eating, purging, excessive exercise or other behaviours linked to eating disorders after having a baby, you’re not alone.

Help is available. And while it’s not always easy to speak honestly and openly about how you’re feeling, it’s incredibly brave to take the first step.

You can find support for body image concerns and/or eating disorders by searching the COPE directory.

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